Birth. Childhood. Teen-dom. College. Career. Marriage. Retirement. Death
This is the chronology society grooms us to stick to and if you go outside of these order of events, you’re a “rebel”. Well, we’ve rebelled anyway by going outside of the conventional take on sexuality. But, having relationships with the same-sex presents an issue with our life itineraries. We are halted at marriage.
A lot of lesbian couples just commit to being life partners and a legal document has no bearing on their respective relationship. Other couples want the legal document in order to feel validated in their relationships. And most couples want to get married to substantiate their commitment to their significant other, which is the basis of marriage anyway.
Marriage is the public/legal acknowledgement of two individuals decision to be eternally devoted to each other. This is what we define as love.
Marriage is not synonymous with love at all.
I don’t believe you HAVE to get married to show your love, but I believe it helps if you’re into fitting societal molds and that sort of thing. Personally, I think we SHOULD get married especially in those states that allow same-sex marriage. We all know how heated of a debate this is, I’ve never quite understood why it’s an issue when church and state are supposed to be separate, but it is arguably, the BIGGEST hurdle of the LGBTQ community.
Anyway, when states finally release their homophobic genes, I think we should take advantage of it. In my opinion gay marriages work better and last longer. The non-traditional family structure allows for more compassion and understanding and devotion and honestly I’ve never met a “problem” child that stemmed from a same sex household. I think gay marriage might be the key to saving the sky rocketing divorce rate. Let us live! Why not support people WILLING to devote their lives to each other instead of supporting people who feel obligated to devote their lives?
I’ve always wanted to get married from childhood and I still do. I just want to have a cohesive family structure. Wife, kids, white picket fence..the whole nine. Maybe it’s my way of trying to make an “abnormality” normal, but then again maybe not. I don’t want to marry every girl I meet JUST because I want to get married. I want to marry someone I love. The ONE I love and raise a family. My vote is to get married. Why not? Let’s show the government that a cohesive family unit is still important, however non-traditional it may be. At least it works and functions properly, and has far less chance at disbanding.
-Chelsea Gotch (@SyKOSuave)