Dom Vs. Trans Men: Understanding Each Other..*NEW*
1.) Who do you believe has it harder in society?
Dom: Society is hard on itself so this question should apply to everybody but probably us because we get ridiculed from every spectrum of the globe. People accuse us of wanting to be men, some Trans Men wont associate with us because we are “too much of a girl” and go through mood-swings. A lot of heteralsexual people think that we can simply change the attire we wear in order to be accepted and everything will be fine. It’s just all a mess.
Trans Man: I agree to an extent. Yes it’s harder to tell that I was once a woman just by simply looking at me and I can live my life as a normal heteral-sexual man without any problems. However, it hasn’t always been this way. Going through the initial transitioning process was a bit hard for me and for my friends. So to answer your question, I think we all have it rough, across the board. It just depends on who you talk to and when.
2.) Why do you believe its ok for Trans Men to date men but not for Doms?
Trans Man: I don’t pass judgement on anyone. If a Dom feels that she is attracted to a man then that is who she is attracted to and should explore feelings with. They place the stigmatisms on themselves.
Dom: It defeats the entire purpose of what a Dom is suppose to stand for. We are the dominante ones, the protectors and the providers. We give the dick not take it!
3.) Who do you think get girls easier?
Dom: Trans Men. They have the pick of them all. They can date bisexual, bi-curious, lesbian and straight women, providing they don’t tell them that they were once women.
Trans Man: That’s deceitful and one of the main reasons I cannot stand the ‘Jerry Springer’ show. I don’t place labels on the women that I date because I don’t like labels placed on me. I make sure that I am upfront with every woman that I date 100% of the time with no room left for interpretation. So to answer your question, probably Doms because I don’t date girls. I date women.
4.) When did you notice the divide in the two communities?
Dom: Its nothing that you “notice” its just there. It’s like an unspoken divide. They do their own thing and we do ours.
Trans Man: Agreed. There is no specific date.
5.) What is one thing that neither of you can understand about Femmes?
Dom: They never say what they mean and always expect you to read their minds.
Trans Man: Some of them have become overly independent. I’m all for a woman who has her own and what not but sometimes its ok to be driven and have the door opened for you. Turn down the independent volumne just a notch.
6.) Any advice for the community?
Trans Man: Don’t change for anybody.
Dom: Love yourself.