Understanding Dating Dyslexia....
Dyslexia: a broad term defining a learning disability that impairs a person's fluency or comprehension accuracy in being able to read.
Dating Dyslexia (DD): a term defining an emotional disability that impairs a person’s fluency or comprehension in reading people that they are romantically involved with or interested in.
Yes I made it up, but if it were a real condition I would have it. In the beginning stages some people with dyslexia may add a letter to a word or write it backwards. I add meaning to the words of the [people] I seriously date and interpret their intentions backwards.
Symptoms include misreading signals and hearing things that were never said.
Their action: They come over to see you in the middle of the night
You think: Wow, [they] really missed me.
Their Intention: The person really wanted to have sex.
Their action: They leave their toothbrush, video game system, and favorite outfits at your house.
You think: You might end up moving in together soon and you give him a key.
Their intention: Their job is closer to your place. Your house is nicer than theirs and is always stocked with their favorite foods. Since you demand so much quality time, they figure it would be easier if at least they were comfortable.
They say: "It was nice meeting you"
You hear: "I think you and I will be great together"
They say: "I love you"
You hear: "You're the one!"
If left untreated this disorder can lead to obsessive compulsive behaviors such as checking your phone every minute to see if they called or sent a text message. The uncontrollable urge to send messages declaring your feelings. The need to be in the same space with this person though it's detrimental to your focus and productivity.
Declaring to take a break from dating is the only treatment available so far. Side effects include random loneliness, booty calls, and an empty bank account due to unnecessary spending on activities to keep yourself occupied.
Support groups are held every weekend at the night club. Meet people who are like you standing the bar or huddled in a group of their friends, dressed to kill with no intention to meet anyone. They usually don't have a clear understanding of why their last relationship ended and insist that these "support groups" are about networking and having a low pressure environment to just have fun.
Consuming alcoholic beverages can exacerbate symptoms and lead to more risk. Studies are being done to determine if this condition is contagious. Individuals with DD can be found in any social and professional setting and are functioning members of society. People who have been diagnosed with DD report being in a previous relationship with someone who displayed like symptoms.
Warning attending social functions geared towards singles can lead to bonding with people who are pretending that they don't have baggage. Your friendship may grow into a relationship and your DD may become active again. ---Simone W.
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Dating Dyslexia (DD): a term defining an emotional disability that impairs a person’s fluency or comprehension in reading people that they are romantically involved with or interested in.
Yes I made it up, but if it were a real condition I would have it. In the beginning stages some people with dyslexia may add a letter to a word or write it backwards. I add meaning to the words of the [people] I seriously date and interpret their intentions backwards.
Symptoms include misreading signals and hearing things that were never said.
Their action: They come over to see you in the middle of the night
You think: Wow, [they] really missed me.
Their Intention: The person really wanted to have sex.
Their action: They leave their toothbrush, video game system, and favorite outfits at your house.
You think: You might end up moving in together soon and you give him a key.
Their intention: Their job is closer to your place. Your house is nicer than theirs and is always stocked with their favorite foods. Since you demand so much quality time, they figure it would be easier if at least they were comfortable.
They say: "It was nice meeting you"
You hear: "I think you and I will be great together"
They say: "I love you"
You hear: "You're the one!"
If left untreated this disorder can lead to obsessive compulsive behaviors such as checking your phone every minute to see if they called or sent a text message. The uncontrollable urge to send messages declaring your feelings. The need to be in the same space with this person though it's detrimental to your focus and productivity.
Declaring to take a break from dating is the only treatment available so far. Side effects include random loneliness, booty calls, and an empty bank account due to unnecessary spending on activities to keep yourself occupied.
Support groups are held every weekend at the night club. Meet people who are like you standing the bar or huddled in a group of their friends, dressed to kill with no intention to meet anyone. They usually don't have a clear understanding of why their last relationship ended and insist that these "support groups" are about networking and having a low pressure environment to just have fun.
Consuming alcoholic beverages can exacerbate symptoms and lead to more risk. Studies are being done to determine if this condition is contagious. Individuals with DD can be found in any social and professional setting and are functioning members of society. People who have been diagnosed with DD report being in a previous relationship with someone who displayed like symptoms.
Warning attending social functions geared towards singles can lead to bonding with people who are pretending that they don't have baggage. Your friendship may grow into a relationship and your DD may become active again. ---Simone W.
Want to see more articles about Love? Check out http://www.strugglesofaloveaddict.com
DEALING WITH A BREAK-UP....
There comes a time in everybody's life when they have to encounter that inevitable broken heart. Sleepless nights and loss of appetite combined with stained cheeks and the loss of urges (like washing your ass) become all too familiar. You don't know whether you're coming or going. All you care about is 'why did this happen?' and 'who is she with?!
Loosing someone you are seriously dating has often been compared to coping with the death of a loved one because of the amounts of stress endured. Regardless of the obvious differences both situations are a form of grief and therefor susceptible to go through the stages of grief.
D.I.N Mag cannot help you avoid a broken heart but we can guide you through the stages of grief, giving you a better understanding of what you may be experiencing and hopefully help you save what little dignity you have left....
1.) Denial- The very first moment your relationship is no longer your own, your mind does an automatic shut down and it becomes very hard to cope with the fact that you are now unwillingly single. You carry on with your days as if you two are doing nothing more than having another fight and eventually she will calm down and come to her senses.
2.) Anger- She's not answering your calls, replying to your text messages or IMs on Facebook. Infact, she has removed you as a friend and you can no longer see her twitter page. That bitch! How dare she do this to you after everything you have done for her ungrateful, selfish ass, right? Yep. You my friend are now in the anger phase.
**This phase tends to be the most dangerous and longest of the five so if you are aware that you are in it, try and think rationally before you do (and say) anything that you will regret later (i.e-egging her car) ESPECIALLY if your goal is to win your ex back because eventually you will calm down and you wouldn't want your moment of clarity to come after you've already been placed behind bars.**
3.) Depression- For some reason she looks even more beautiful in her old pictures than ever before. Every song on the radio has a message that you can relate to her. You don't even like Downelink but you created an entire account just to look at her updated pictures. You have constant headaches because you cant stop crying and you have to sleep with an over-sized stuffed animal just to maintain some level of comfort so you can rest. Yeah. You're depressed. But the good part about this is that you have acknowledged that it is an actual break up and now you have the opportunity to plan you're next move whether it be towards healing or racking your brain trying to win your baby back.
4.) Bargaining- It usually starts with a drunken text. Then comes the lengthy e-mail pouring your heart and soul all over the keyboard. Or maybe you're just THAT determined and went as far as leaving an actual voicemail but either way you just HAVE to speak to her and if she gives you the opportunity to be in her presence again you are willing to do anything it takes to keep her; even if that means sharing her with someone else or just doing as she says. It doesn't matter. Ego to the side you need your baby and you just want her back!
**This stage is critical because it can revert you back to anger (which starts the entire process all over again) if she rejects you or leads you on, making it harder and in some cases longer to heal. So proceed with caution).
5.) Acceptance-It's over. There is no coming back. You guys just weren't meant to be. Evertyhing happens for a reason and your experience with her has better prepared you for the next relationship with whom you're actually suppose to be with and yadda, yadda, blah, blah and blah. Whatever cliched line you have to tell yourself to feel better, DO IT because every break up in some form or another is premeditated so while you were thinking about what icing to use on your wedding cake, she was thinking about ways to leave your ass without splitting the leftover cake in the refridgerator. Think about it and FEEL BETTER! Unless you were a complete asshole to her, she will come back. Trust me. They all do.
Loosing someone you are seriously dating has often been compared to coping with the death of a loved one because of the amounts of stress endured. Regardless of the obvious differences both situations are a form of grief and therefor susceptible to go through the stages of grief.
D.I.N Mag cannot help you avoid a broken heart but we can guide you through the stages of grief, giving you a better understanding of what you may be experiencing and hopefully help you save what little dignity you have left....
1.) Denial- The very first moment your relationship is no longer your own, your mind does an automatic shut down and it becomes very hard to cope with the fact that you are now unwillingly single. You carry on with your days as if you two are doing nothing more than having another fight and eventually she will calm down and come to her senses.
2.) Anger- She's not answering your calls, replying to your text messages or IMs on Facebook. Infact, she has removed you as a friend and you can no longer see her twitter page. That bitch! How dare she do this to you after everything you have done for her ungrateful, selfish ass, right? Yep. You my friend are now in the anger phase.
**This phase tends to be the most dangerous and longest of the five so if you are aware that you are in it, try and think rationally before you do (and say) anything that you will regret later (i.e-egging her car) ESPECIALLY if your goal is to win your ex back because eventually you will calm down and you wouldn't want your moment of clarity to come after you've already been placed behind bars.**
3.) Depression- For some reason she looks even more beautiful in her old pictures than ever before. Every song on the radio has a message that you can relate to her. You don't even like Downelink but you created an entire account just to look at her updated pictures. You have constant headaches because you cant stop crying and you have to sleep with an over-sized stuffed animal just to maintain some level of comfort so you can rest. Yeah. You're depressed. But the good part about this is that you have acknowledged that it is an actual break up and now you have the opportunity to plan you're next move whether it be towards healing or racking your brain trying to win your baby back.
4.) Bargaining- It usually starts with a drunken text. Then comes the lengthy e-mail pouring your heart and soul all over the keyboard. Or maybe you're just THAT determined and went as far as leaving an actual voicemail but either way you just HAVE to speak to her and if she gives you the opportunity to be in her presence again you are willing to do anything it takes to keep her; even if that means sharing her with someone else or just doing as she says. It doesn't matter. Ego to the side you need your baby and you just want her back!
**This stage is critical because it can revert you back to anger (which starts the entire process all over again) if she rejects you or leads you on, making it harder and in some cases longer to heal. So proceed with caution).
5.) Acceptance-It's over. There is no coming back. You guys just weren't meant to be. Evertyhing happens for a reason and your experience with her has better prepared you for the next relationship with whom you're actually suppose to be with and yadda, yadda, blah, blah and blah. Whatever cliched line you have to tell yourself to feel better, DO IT because every break up in some form or another is premeditated so while you were thinking about what icing to use on your wedding cake, she was thinking about ways to leave your ass without splitting the leftover cake in the refridgerator. Think about it and FEEL BETTER! Unless you were a complete asshole to her, she will come back. Trust me. They all do.
THE HOT FEMMES YOU SHOULD WATCH OUT FOR!
Have you ever caught yourself in a situation with a woman you swore was the ‘love of your life’ but turned out to be the Grim Reaper in heels? Sure you have! We all have but don’t you wish that you could have avoided the aftermath of the encounter, lessened the level of shock and have your battle armor ready for those soul destroying arguments? Well, we can’t help your past situation but we can help aid you in avoiding a massive heartache in the future and maybe even save some “baby Doms” from making the mistakes that we “seasoned Doms” have made.
D.I.N has decided to put together a brief list of the types of Femmes you should avoid (no matter how good she looks!)....
The Mind-Fucker:
She is everything that you dreamed a woman would be and more. She is attractive, attentive to your needs, wants and nasty little desires that no other woman was even comfortable enough to talk with you about. She says all of the right things and your social circle adore her! But there’s just something about this girl that you can’t quite put your finger on and her perfection scares you a little bit. PAY ATTENTION! The feeling that you have in your gut is not gas, it’s your intuition trying to warn you that your angel is Satan himself reincarnated with perky boobs! It’s hard to recognize a mind fucker because they are good at what they do and are rarely caught until they break your heart. However, all of the early warning signs are there, you just have to PAY ATTENTION. How do you think it’s so easy for them to mold into what you want in a woman? They PAY ATTENTION to every detail of what you say, observe what you do and will ask questions about your past relationships in order to avoid the mistakes your exes made. They have this game down to a science but will slip up slightly from time to time which is why you must be on you’re A game. Because every M.F. is different there is no full-proof way to point one out however from experience they all share the common two slip-ups. They often contradict what they say (it’s slight so PAY ATTENTION), and they never answer questions directly. Asking a M.F. a question confuses you more than you were when you initiated the question in the first place and you find yourself trying to answer it on your own with what little response she gives you.
The Emotional Black Hole:
She ALWAYS has a problem! It could be something as simple as her nail breaking but she will make it seem like the world is coming to an end and will turn to you to fix it, tears and all! But you always do and why? Because you love her and figure that if you cannot be the one to help out your girl than who can, right? How about your girl helping out herself?? The E.B will drain you so much that you won’t have any emotional energy left for anyone else but her. Sooner than later you will find yourself shying away from friends and family because you cannot possibly balance everyone. You will avoid going out as much as possible because the MOMENT she discovers you are out and could be (heaven forbid) enjoying life without her, she will call you! Nine times out of ten that call with deplete you so much that when you arrive at your destination your mind will be so focused on her new found problem that you can’t enjoy yourself so you end up leaving anyway to run to her rescue. But guess what Captain, YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO SAVE HER! GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!
The Modern Day Gold-Digger:
Oh yes she’s going to take your money! But she’s going to do it in a way that you won’t even realize it’s happening until you two break up and you realize you don’t have anything, yet you never missed a day of work. She’s not asking for your credit cards or your account numbers. Hell, half the time she doesn’t ask for anything at all; or so you think. The M.D.G.D has a Masters in subtlety and can drop a hint so fast about what she wants that before you even realize it, you’re signing your name on a receipt and carrying a bag to a store you have no business in! The M.D.G.D is hard to spot in the beginning of a relationship and most of them start out treating YOU to things. But over time you will notice that you see her purse less and less. The only way to spot one is to stop doing what you are doing at least for a month, just to test her reaction. If she still wants to shop and go out but offers to pay then perhaps you have a winner on your side that just got caught up in the spoiling moment. But if she becomes cold and distant than you, my friend have just revealed the M.D.G.D.
D.I.N has decided to put together a brief list of the types of Femmes you should avoid (no matter how good she looks!)....
The Mind-Fucker:
She is everything that you dreamed a woman would be and more. She is attractive, attentive to your needs, wants and nasty little desires that no other woman was even comfortable enough to talk with you about. She says all of the right things and your social circle adore her! But there’s just something about this girl that you can’t quite put your finger on and her perfection scares you a little bit. PAY ATTENTION! The feeling that you have in your gut is not gas, it’s your intuition trying to warn you that your angel is Satan himself reincarnated with perky boobs! It’s hard to recognize a mind fucker because they are good at what they do and are rarely caught until they break your heart. However, all of the early warning signs are there, you just have to PAY ATTENTION. How do you think it’s so easy for them to mold into what you want in a woman? They PAY ATTENTION to every detail of what you say, observe what you do and will ask questions about your past relationships in order to avoid the mistakes your exes made. They have this game down to a science but will slip up slightly from time to time which is why you must be on you’re A game. Because every M.F. is different there is no full-proof way to point one out however from experience they all share the common two slip-ups. They often contradict what they say (it’s slight so PAY ATTENTION), and they never answer questions directly. Asking a M.F. a question confuses you more than you were when you initiated the question in the first place and you find yourself trying to answer it on your own with what little response she gives you.
The Emotional Black Hole:
She ALWAYS has a problem! It could be something as simple as her nail breaking but she will make it seem like the world is coming to an end and will turn to you to fix it, tears and all! But you always do and why? Because you love her and figure that if you cannot be the one to help out your girl than who can, right? How about your girl helping out herself?? The E.B will drain you so much that you won’t have any emotional energy left for anyone else but her. Sooner than later you will find yourself shying away from friends and family because you cannot possibly balance everyone. You will avoid going out as much as possible because the MOMENT she discovers you are out and could be (heaven forbid) enjoying life without her, she will call you! Nine times out of ten that call with deplete you so much that when you arrive at your destination your mind will be so focused on her new found problem that you can’t enjoy yourself so you end up leaving anyway to run to her rescue. But guess what Captain, YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO SAVE HER! GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!
The Modern Day Gold-Digger:
Oh yes she’s going to take your money! But she’s going to do it in a way that you won’t even realize it’s happening until you two break up and you realize you don’t have anything, yet you never missed a day of work. She’s not asking for your credit cards or your account numbers. Hell, half the time she doesn’t ask for anything at all; or so you think. The M.D.G.D has a Masters in subtlety and can drop a hint so fast about what she wants that before you even realize it, you’re signing your name on a receipt and carrying a bag to a store you have no business in! The M.D.G.D is hard to spot in the beginning of a relationship and most of them start out treating YOU to things. But over time you will notice that you see her purse less and less. The only way to spot one is to stop doing what you are doing at least for a month, just to test her reaction. If she still wants to shop and go out but offers to pay then perhaps you have a winner on your side that just got caught up in the spoiling moment. But if she becomes cold and distant than you, my friend have just revealed the M.D.G.D.
